Long-term, this could work out amazingly well — or not. (I say this as a divorced father myself.) Since this guy is older and has two kids, he's going to be less flexible than you. Instead, you're going to have to triangulate between your needs, his needs, and the needs of his two kids.That goes from everything from time to money to priorities.I don't have a problem getting turned on when we fool around in other ways, but as soon as I know we are going to have sex, it happens.I see him frown a bit when he reaches down to touch me and realizes I'm dry.Our sex life was great before we got married, but ever since we've been married, all I can think about is my ex and how good the sex was with him.My ex was the first person I ever had sex with, and we haven't seen each other in three years.
Arguments have spawned about which partner has the indignity and discomfort of sleeping in said spot.Being a step-parent could be enormously gratifying, but there are 1,001 ways you will have to prioritize his children. As for the kids themselves, I think you have to remember that they are his children — not yours.It's up to him to set boundaries and explain your relationship to them.You're worried about hurting his feelings, so don't be shy and confuse the situation: Tell him what's going on. That said, this is a physical symptom and I'm not a doctor. Even if it's nothing, just airing your concern to a doctor might ease your mind.I recently started seeing an awesome guy that I met online. Aside from actual laws, there are no firm rules when it comes to love.