Dating emotionally unavailable man
You have to think of him as he is and how he has treated you for the bulk of the time.Forget how he was in the beginning because the beginning was four years ago!On Thursday, Astelle wanted to know why her emotionally unavailable man (Mr Unavailable) kept returning her contact when he wasn’t interested.In a follow up to the advice I gave her, Astelle has some more questions 1.
He likes the idea of being with you and likes you per se, but doesn’t actually like you enough to change. Emotionally unavailable men are very of the moment and enjoy the short term fringe benefits but don’t actually want to contribute.
The key to this is no contact means no contact whether you initiate it or he does.
Wash your hands of him, delete his number, forget him, and move on.
The moment Mr Unavailable feels scared he’ll get to running. The last time I saw him he was almost nasty to me, did he do that so that i will leave him alone and not contact him anymore? I’m gonna be so mean to you tonight, you won’t want to see me again and if you do, you just prove to me that you’re not worthy anyway…’ Do you see where I’m headed with this? Let’s say that you hadn’t chased him, he would have been curious about you and chased you to see if it was an act and whether he could reel you in.
Sometimes with Mr Unavailable, they are telepathically trying to tell you ‘Can’t you see that I ain’t sh*t! Everything we do just confirms various beliefs that they have and no matter what, they always get to be right.